Second time .......

Dare to fall in love again ……

                   Enter the second relation!!!!!!!

what is he thinking and what is she thinking???

“Vegetarians can’t be trusted” He said

                                      “Nonvegitarians are cruel “ she said    

The tug of war continues on and on and on. for  protection against blames ,best is before he says ,you attack there is never dearth of reasons to pull down each other ,when a women or lets say even a man dares to give him/herself a second chance and gets committed once again ,they hardly have any idea that they are going on testing platform where they will be checked by their partner every now and then for there every small or big act,their all activities and even their intentions can be questioned and answers will be cross checked ,

You haveto prove at each lane that you are honest and sincere, what you do for your relationship  would be considered normal ,but what you don’t do for whatever logical reason the end result would come out to be you are not sincere enough ,you are casual about your relationship

                        A trial to add that extra to win the trust often creates gap between the real desire to do it and the way it is  done ,anyone can make mistake but in this case your mistakes are liable for being postmortemed & due to preconceived notion ,the result would be same ,you are not good enough,how much you do but its always less

Insecurity creates abnormality in behavior,isn’t it natural for anyone who has been serious in her relationship to take some time to be completely out of it ,does that makes her mentally infidel to her present partner? She needs support, empathy and understanding not regular checks on her,and whatshe gets to hear is “trust is some thing you don’t get for free,earn it “

And in theprocess of earning so called trust ,you are not allowed to make mistake too,you will have surprise test and quizzes  too,like when me met? What was the colour of my shirt? Where me met ? what is number of my car ? You have to answer instantly without any phone a friend option, its even to the extent “you don’t know till now that from which switch,light gets own” because you don’t know these answers so ofcourse –YOU don’t care ,to hell with that ,that you are taking care ofthings and responsibilities  at much better end then with whom you knew all these answers,

                                                  You kill yourself to prove nothing matters,what matters is what you did in your last relationship ,has to be done plus what new things you haveto add up,this regular comparison would go on but if you dare to compare …..you are cheap !!!your one simple sentence can be proved as lie,because you would be asked to narrate same incident 5 times in 5 months then you will be told all versions don’t match,bloody hell even if saroj khan dances on same number 5 times in 5 months ,her step would also not be similar ,but who cares,so you are a liar !!!!

                                  I wonder how people forget the difference of age, mentality and city ,when you are in school and college you are silly enough to keep chocletes and toffee wrappers that your partner gifts as memoria ,but you don’t do it when you are working professional even if you are with same guy,but you will be questioned why you threw thardairy milk wrapper,I have seen in your diary you had habit of keeping it,is it so that today on who gave it is not that imprtanat….grrrrr how to answer this !!!!!

                                            All the lectures regarding deapth,consistency, dignity of being women, importance of speaking truth why is it only told but not followed, if you are checking some one’s mailans messges ,isn’t it breach of privacy ???if you find some chat u don’t understand but you perceive, whose fault it is, why wont a person lie,if you wanna see all the chats ,why wont she make another account,why to control some one’s life ???

                                             Tell me who is short tempered in his youth ???,very few of us, at that time most of us are in dreamy world where everything is perfect ,so how does this  become such an important question,you never had such  bad temperament in your previous relationship,but you shout at me ?????you are mature,sensible have better understanding of life by now so you are cautious ,you are practical,its irrational to expect to behave in similar pattern as u did in your last relationship,why cant individuality be not respected??The reality is with second relationship,person has already learnt from his past his mistakes ,so he/she is more conscious and future oriented, no one likes failure ,

Truth is not this ,that is no love or less love,  love was very much there but the questionnaire round and testings and trials of proving and earning trust,backseated love somewhere   .’with your first love there is kidishness,there is innocence,there is purity ,you are in your dreamland you don’t know what reality is so you act differently ,but secondtime you already know how life is ,so you plan instead of panicking….

                                                       Even if you meet your x,its not a crime to be hanged till death or sentenced home imprisonment under serious custody and hard work ,meeting x, doesn’t make the person  is infidel,may be something was left to be finished,may be it was important,may be a realization its better he is your x…sometimes it is important to confront….think before you blame…its not easy for either instead of understanding creating a havoc, for any genuine person its not easy to move in and out of relationship so frequently it takes time, it needs patience, it needs understanding ,it needs time ………

                                  Relationship can work smoothly without love, but it just can’t work without trust, AND “TRUST HAS TO BE DEVELOPED” not earned ….

                                            Second relationship doesn’t mean  second priority ,but in haste of having all people ruin it and once again, break the person …and make her/him more hard ..